All families have their ups and downs, and dealing with family tension can be challenging. Positive communication is key to dealing with family tension before it escalates into violence. Before confronting difficult members of your family, strive for positive communication and consider consulting a lawyer.
Choose the time and place carefully when discussing topics of tension
Tension can be increased by chaotic surroundings. Communication breakdowns occur when the noise of our surroundings are allowed to interfere with message transmission. Before discussing topics of family tension or attempting to communicate with difficult family members, remove distractions and annoyances. It is also important to consider the general mood when dealing with family tensions and time the discussion if possible. Approach the family member with an open posture, and evaluate their mood. If they seem unresponsive, return to the subject later.
Avoid making accusatory statements
In the heat of the moment many communicators resort to accusatory statements that only inflame the situation. Instead, adopt this three-part method of communication that will ensure that your feelings are heard without escalating the tension. Begin by stating what the behavior is that you wish to discuss, and then tell that family member how you are perceiving that behavior. Perception is often the cause of family tension and disagreements can be mitigated by stating the perceived behavior. Next, tell the family member how it makes you feel. This allows the family member to observe the tension from your point of view. Finally, suggest a compromise or solution to the problem. Airing problems without solution will only add to the tension.
Work with a lawyer when the situation becomes dangerous
When positive communication efforts have failed, it is important to consider working with a lawyer in order to protect yourself and your family. A lawyer can act as a mediator, and often the presence of a lawyer will relieve some of the tension. Working with a lawyer ensures that you will not be held responsible for negative effects. A lawyer can also protect your belongings and finances. Violence can also result from family tensions spiraling out of control, and it is important to have a Vancouver assault lawyer on your side before the situation escalates even more.
Family tension can easily spiral out of control, so it is important to make an effort to achieve positive and effective communication. Choose the location and timing of the confrontation carefully, conduct your communication in an open manner, and consider working with a lawyer.
This article is courtesy of Anita Ginsburg, a freelance writer from Denver who often writes about home, family, law and business. A mother of two, she enjoys traveling with her family when she isn’t writing.
